Truth is a bitter pill to swallow.
We’re avoiding it at all costs and running away.
Stop. Pause. Reflect.
Facing our own truth is like peeling the layers of an onion.
First, we bump into ego. We’ve all been there. The notion of becoming vulnerable even just to ourselves is seen as a “weakness” or a “threat” by our primitive brains. To protect ourselves, we build a false identity that keeps us distracted from true inner work.
Example: When we act confidently in situations where we feel uncertain, we might be protecting our ego to avoid vulnerability.
Second, we find ways to blame circumstances and people. It’s easier to point fingers outwards than do the inner work.
Example: If we miss a promotion at work, we might find it easier to blame our boss or colleagues than to reflect on how we can improve.
Third, there’s a common human behavior of judgment. It’s easy to see reality through conditioned patterns that again protect the ego and justify our choices.
Example: We might judge others who take risks because it challenges our comfort zone.
Fourth and final layer before uncovering the truth is facing our insecurities. Hidden beneath outwardly pushing patterns lie our neural wiring. The things we’re scared to even confront to ourselves. These may seem like the truths but they’re still protecting reality as is without any filter. Insecurities are learned behaviours around survival and belonging.
Example: Deep down, fears about our abilities or worth often hold us back from even trying to change.
And then, we get to the truth.
As the saying goes,
“The truth will set you free.”
Owning your narrative is freeing. It gives you independence from other people’s opinions and judgments.
If you’re aware and accepting of your own truth, no one else can bring you down.
Friday reminder to go deeper beneath the layers that hinder you from understanding your own truth.
Don’t shy away from facing your realities, as is, without creating evaluations of them.